Wedding Wednesday

Ugh. I can tell this wedding stuff is going to get stressful. I really hoped it wouldn't. But, with my parents, I can see that it will. Right now we are trying to book the reception site, and with the economy the way it is and everyone's financial status...it's gettin' a little rough. Today we went to the Hilton so my parents could see the room and place the deposit. Long and short of it, the deposit wasn't placed because my parents feel we need to come up with an exact amount that is going to be spent and make sure there aren't any cheaper places to hold the reception. We need to trim the guest list and come up with the closest approximation of total cost as possible. Giving them a budget wasn't good enough. I guess that means I'll be looking at some other venues. Even though I love this place and really want to hold the party there, it isn't good enough for them.

I hate to sound like a snot or like I'm being spoiled, but I'm really frustrated. I feel like we are being totally reasonable with the amount we want to spend, but I guess that's not good enough. I understand financial hardship, so it makes me feel very torn when I want to spend this money that I know doesn't really exist. Eloping is sounding like a wonderful plan at this time. I just feel like I deserve better. But I know that we don't always get what we want or deserve. I really wish I could get into a better state of mind...or that my parents would. Today was a classic scene from "Father of the Bride", ironically, my favorite movie. "Who else can we ask not to eat? My parents...your mother...".

I seriously don't mind cutting costs. I don't need or even want a fancy wedding. I'll do my own invitations. I'm not having a bridal party. The Hilton has their own centerpieces that I'm totally willing to use rather than spending the extra money on my own and lots of flowers. I'm paying for all the church costs myself. What else? Oh I can't think of anything else...but I'm totally wanting to be flexible. I think they're just freaking out. This too shall pass...

Wedding Wednesday

K....this is starting to become real. Bobby and I made the visit to the Hilton Mesa today to make sure we still liked it, to get prices, and to reserve the date. The room we will be having our reception in is called "The Pavon Room". It is downstairs and WE LOVE IT!!!! It's just so different from the traditional wedding ballroom. It's not a ballroom! Maybe when I get home I can post a few pics. The room wasn't setup for a reception today, so we had to use our imaginations, but ahhh....I can totally imagine it. It's multi-level and has awesome chrome-looking railings. The bar is like an actual bar and not just a movable cart. It's so cool. There are these cool high-top tables around the dance floor for people to sit at while others dance...I just love it.

Right now, we have the room on hold for one week so we can get my parents down there and make sure everything money-wise is ok with them. We feel that they are very reasonable with pricing. We will probably do the buffet-style dinner, it's just deciding how many entrees we want to offer. One of our top priorities is having an open bar. So, we'll see if we can swing that ;) We just want to have fun, and for our guests to have fun. Guests...that's another thing we worked on today.

We started the guest list. Let's just say, I have a lot of friends and little family and Bobby is the opposite!! So, I guess it kind of balances out. We wrote down everyone we could think of including those that we are sort of "obligated" to invite and even included those people from Connecticut that probably wouldn't make the trip. The total was 107. Not bad!! We were aiming for 100, so I think this will work out splendidly! We really just want our closest family and friends there for our day.

Ahh...I feel like things are getting accomplished. And I'm not stressed yet...though I know with the photographer, cake, flowers, dress...things are going to get crazy! Next Monday my mom and dad are meeting us at the Hilton to officially reserve the space! Yay! Next Tuesday we do our FOCUS thingy...whooopdy do. Linds and I are planning on going dress shoppping in a couple weeks when I have some time off. Yes Lo, you can come :)