Wedding Wednesday

As I sit here in the Recovery Room at Good Sam...patiently (ha ha) waiting for my patient's room to be "STAT" cleaned (it's taken over an hour now...grrr, so not STAT), I guess I'll attempt to write my weekly blog. And try not to wake my patient with my rapid typing :)

Yesterday, Tuesday, Bobby and I went to St. Andrew for our follow-up FOCUS assessment thingy. Basically, we pay this lady $50 to read the results of our "assessment" and talk to us for an hour about how we plan to solve some "problems" before we enter into marriage. I have to say, I actually really liked it. However, ha ha ha ha shockingly enough (not), Bobby and I are going to require at least one more one hour session. Which means another $50. Yuck. Oh well, we did see a lot of benefit in the first session and agreed to go to the next one. Kinda like cheap counseling (and who couldn't use a little of that these days?). The next session isn't until May 12, so I probably won't have a ton to write about until then, but we do want to check out the reception place (Hilton, Mesa) again to make sure it's what we still like.

Through this first session, we have come to a few conclusions. First, we need to start making joint decisions. Seems like right now, I make most of the decisions in the house (except for where to eat...I hate that one!). So we've (I've) agreed to be better about that.

Secondly, we have to divide up the household chores. We both work full time. I work 36 hrs at night 3 days a week and then have Brielle the other 4 days. Bobby works 2 part time jobs and goes to school full time. Neither of us is EVER enthusiastic about cleaning...anything. But, I'm usually the one who sucks it up and does most of the chores. Bobby will do them...when I nag him to death or if he's having an extraordinary moment of self-motivation (rare). So, we have decided that we are going to do a "draft" of sorts. We are going to write down all of the household chores (inside and out) and then choose one at a time which we will do on a weekly basis, mostly to maintain my sanity as I get extremely stressed out when I'm tired and the house is a wreck! Thanks Mom.

Finally, we have decided that we need some mutual friends. Now this is no offense to any of our current friends (my side or his). I tolerate his friends and he gets along with all of mine. The problem is really that our friends are so different. My friends are married with kids (mostly) and his are all bachelors with no promising prospects for wives or children in the immediate future. My friends are very straight edge (boring, square...whatever...not to me of course because I, myself, am boring and square). And before you take offense friends, these are not Bobby's words...so don't hate...playas. And his friends are...well...into recreational (and sometimes habitual) usage of substances that some may not consider exactly "legal"...if you get my drift. These are not the type of people I have ever chosen to associate myself with. The guys are pretty nice, yes. And I suppose what they do with their own time and body is their decision...I just don't like to be around it or like Bobby around it. Seriously....grow up already.

I guess this is it for now. I'm still waiting on a room...grrrrr...let's see it's been oh...1 1/2 hours now...great. So much for STAT. Pt doesn't seem to care...she's snorring away!

Heart U....